I wanted to write on a subject we all desperately want... love. Many people go through life, seeking their one true love that will be THE ONE, the one that will make them live happily ever after. We are served this fairytale from the time we learn to walk through Disney's cute and charming stories. And we buy into it. We truly do believe our significant other exists and that we'll fall madly in love without having to work for it. BS I say.
Now, to get things straight, that's not exactly true. I do believe there exists someone in the world with whom we can connect instantly and love forever. But, and here comes the tricky part, it demands continuous work from both sides. Love isn't impermeable to the tricks of time. The butterflies and sparks don't last forever. You cannot sit back and relax on the canopy and hope that your love will keep on playing like a romance movie. Things just aren't that easy. Man and woman must always keep working on their relationship to keep it from dying.
These days, many marry on a whim and marriage are based on the initial passions and arousal the other suscitates. Getting to know one another, spending time talking together, that is gone. I've always believed that your lover is someone who is first and foremost your best friend, someone who knows you inside and out. But that isn't the case nowadays. And that's probably why there's such a high rate of divorce today. People marry for love and when the love disappears, so does the other partner.
Who am I to talk about this? I don't know much about it, having only been in one relationship to date, and one that didn't last very long. I'm just speaking about what I'm observing around me. Couples with kids I'm friends with are getting divorced after 20-30 years of marriage. It comes as a shock for me. But it just makes me realize that you can't rely uniquely on love. To have a lasting relationship, you must relate to the other person on a deeper level. Love the other person for what they are, their energy, their laughs, their passions... (not just their bodies or the feelings of arousal they create in you)... and that kind of love is a love that keeps on flourishing with time.
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I think that people get ''bored'' of their partners and want more. I meen, who wants the same old sandwich everyday? They're so used to what their partner has to give they do see it as much. So, in result, they see others do the same things but they see it in a better way. Also, when couples are too shy to tell each other littles things their partner does that bugs them, later on it creates a huge fight. Being scared of being honest is not a good thing.
ReplyDeleteAGREE!! (with your last sentence) Honesty is key!
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